Welcome to the Digest on Love column. As college students, we experience relationship issues and need advice or another perspective. We encourage our fellow Jags to send their questions to [email protected] and in return we will respond in our newly implemented section.
Dear Digest on Love,
Hello, love corner, I have a question on my current relationship I feel like my boyfriend is cheating on me, and I really don’t know how to explain the feeling, I guess its a women’s intuition, but I feel like it is true. He hasn’t been acting the same, and this has been going on for about three weeks. We both live on campus, and I know its hard to always see each other on campus but on top of not seeing him all the time, and the vibes I’ve been receiving from him, it just doesn’t seem right. Is there any way I can ask him about it without one sounding crazy and two risk getting him angry for the accusations?
Dear F.W,
This is a pretty hard one. On one hand you could be right and on another you could be wrong. This is college and the best part of college, you have four to five years to meet different guys. Wondering the entire semester if your boyfriend is cheating on you will be a waste of your college life/experience. There is a whole world going on and you may be missing it. You can ask him or get your girls to investigate (kidding) but really if you ask him and he says no, then either you take that answer or move on if you still feel the same way.
Dear Digest on Love,
How would you handle being in a relationship with someone who already has a baby with someone else?
Dear J.H,
I have been in that situation and it’s different for each person. There are a lot of things that you have to factor in this relationship, like is this person on good terms with the other parent, how often does he or she spend time with the child and what type of relationship would you want with this child. Also, how long have you been in this relationship and how old is this baby? I can’t really give you much on what you should do because this is a real case by case situation. Just ask yourself “am I willing to accept everything that comes with this person?” Everything meaning his or her child, the child’s parent and all that jazz. If you aren’t ready to be responsible in that way, then part ways and find someone else.
Dear Digest on Love,
How do you manage a relationship, school, and a job?
Dear R.H,
To manage a relationship, school, and a job, you have to be really organized and have your priorities in order. Now that you are in college to get an education, so school needs to come first. The fact that you have a job means you probably need the financial help that comes second. The person in the relationship with you should be mature enough to understand that you have to do what you have to do to finish school and be financially stable. If he or she is always making you feel bad for going to school and work, then they are not for you. Since you are dating, make sure to also incorporate time for your significant other each week, oh and yourself!
Dear Digest on Love,
What’s the best way to breakup with someone you been telling that you wanted to breakup?
Dear M.J.,
Honestly, there aren’t any great ways of breaking up with someone, because all break ups are hard to do. I would suggest you let this person know that you need to break up, point blank. Do not do it in public or over the phone. Also, after you have done so, you need to cut out contact for sometime. Cutting out contact means no phone call, text messages, social media or face to face. You cannot break up with someone and talk to them like its nothing. They won’t understand. I hope this helps you!
Dear Digest on Love,
My ex hit me up on Val-day while I was with my bf, and pretty much shook my relationship, up how do I get my boyfriend to realize I don’t want him as in my ex?
Dear Val-mess,
Tell you boyfriend that you are with him and not your ex. Put your ex on the block list and do not make any type of communication with him. When I say any type of communication, that means social media, email, smoke signals, or passing notes…you get my point. If you are with your boyfriend then make sure you are not communicating with your ex. I’m sure he is your ex for a pretty good reason.
Dear Digest on Love,
I need to know what is keeping me and my boyfriend distant without insulting him or making him mad at me, how do I do that?
Dear R.L,
A lot could be going on in your boyfriend’s life, resulting in him making himself distant. School, and relationship, in combination can sometimes get a tad stressful and become too much for a person. You could try and do something fun with him to ease his mind, like bowling or maybe even working out. Partaking in an activity with casual talking may be easier for him to open up opposed to the normal sit down discussion. Or you could just continue to be that nice girlfriend and eventually he will open up, once he feels comfortable.
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DIGEST LOVE
February 18, 2016
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