ABREACTION SCRIBED “Brotha Man- Rise Up!”

Single black mothers, church homes, rap music, Jordan’s, and Vh1’s Love & Hip-Hop are a few things that might come to mind when talking about what bears influence on the black community. One gargantuan factor that people often seem to disregard is the weight that the black man himself holds in the advancement and downfall within our race. In the media there is hardly ever anything positive being said about him unless he’s an entertainer, athlete, or fighting for his country. Seemingly though, we’ve accepted this and we ensure him that he doesn’t need to be more than that and that real values and qualities of a man are only fantasies.
Let me be the first to say it aloud… We need our black men to be kings once and forevermore! We need the strength and leadership of a man to help rebuild the unity that we lost along the way. We need fathers, sons, and brothers to step up and be who your people need you to be. You’re no use to us shot up and dead or incarcerated.
It can be argued that most were never taught to be men so they lack certain skills and qualities necessary to lead… I beg to differ. At one point in every man’s life he realizes that he is a man and being so lies responsibilities. When he realizes the responsibilities he posses, should he also fathom the means to fulfill them. Easier said than done? A common excuse when the objective has not been tried hard enough.
Nevertheless, the weak lineage that black men have had to follow does present it’s challenges. Every generation has had to learn from scratch what it means to be a strong man but it is not impossible. As a man, drive and determination should come naturally. Black men must find it in their souls to step up to the plate and navigate a resolution for our people; enduding all of the obstacles that the world throws at them just because they fear the dominance that comes with being a man and black. If reflection is needed, let us not omit the times when blacks were considered 3/5 of a person in these United States… When black men had to watch their wives, mothers, sisters, cousins, and daughters get dragged off by their owners to be abused and rapped. There is much to be reminded of if need be for my brothers to open their eyes and finally come together for some reinvention of our livelihood.
Let us not sweep one very critical matter under the rug… respect. The respect that black men for the past couple of generations have lacked for black women. The lack of respect and love that little black girls receive from their fathers are what makes them comfortable later in life being in relationships with black men who also lack love and respect for them. Black women, if no one else, need love, respect, and security from their men; without it, emotional trauma manifests. Women are strong indeed but the influence that a man holds over them, regardless if women agree or will admit, reflects in the way they live their everyday lives. A woman will follow the lead of a good man but that’s not happening because our black men are generally degrading and/or ignoring them.
There are arguments about the issue such a as black men quoting that they disrespect black women because black women disrespect themselves. To be a man is to respect a women, regardless of her flaws. Not to mention the very undeniable aspect of human flaws essentially… no one is exempt. So that argument alone is not suitable enough. If black men stop attending to the absurdity of some actions black women display I’m sure it will have an abrupt ending.
No one can love a black man more than a black woman can, if you let her. And men, the way I see it, you’re living life just going though the motions. If we as a people are going to reach higher grounds, the motions won’t cut it. Starting now, let’s reevaluate and reinvent for a more speedy progression. We can’t do it without you brothers and as your sisters, we genuinely don’t want to.