Not made to be a Mistress Forum

As a part of AKA Week 2014, the Beta Psi chapter of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Incorporated hosted the Olivia and Fitz “Not made to be a Mistress” relationship forum that was held Monday night in the Royal Cotillion Ballroom.
The theme of AKA Week 2014 was Skandal, a play on the hit ABC television show “Scandal” created by Shonda Rhimes. The TV show—produced by Shondaland Productions—is about a White House Communications Director, Olivia Pope, who leaves to start her own crisis management firm only to discover that she can’t leave her past behind, according to IMDB.
President Fitzgerald Grant is married to Mellie Grant, although he enjoys an intimate relationship with Olivia Pope, whenever Mellie isn’t domineering their marriage. 
This scandalous relationship is relatable because often individuals find themselves playing a game of tug-a-war. 
Olivia tries to ease up and break free of the hold Fitz has on her, but he always manages to pull her back in.
As an icebreaker, there were volunteers called to the front of the ballroom to give their information, and to pick which character from the show best represented them and why. 
Rayven Lamar, a 19 year old freshman business major from St. James Parish, said she was like Mellie.
“Even though she gets overlooked most of the time, Mellie would do anything for her family,” said Lamar.
“She would do anything to get the job done,” finished Lamar.
Jakeitha Baker, a 21 year old junior child development major from Hammond, described herself as the “it” girl of the show, Olivia Pope.
“Olivia is seen as the “problem fixer” and I have that same role in my family,” said Baker.
“President Fitz can’t get enough of her and I want to be like that to someone someday.”
The audience members were able to ask questions that were either chosen out of a cup, or that they came up with themselves.
“Do you believe that there are advantages to being the other woman or man, and if so, what are they?” Asked Alaric Jones, a 22 year old senior chemistry major from Alexandria.
This question caused a lot of stir, and Megan Henderson was the first to answer.
“I can’t speak from experience, but I can assume that some advantages are that you don’t get nagged as often. However the disadvantages are that you get the short hand of the stick and you can’t eat crawfish and potatoes with the family.”
Her response caused a lot of laughter, but the panel raised their ‘I Agree’ papers because they knew she was telling the truth.
One panel member, however, did disagree. 
“It just depends on the person. Sometimes being the other person is better for that particular person,” said Troy Davis, the 21 year old civil engineering major who was representing the Rho chapter of Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity, Incorporated. 
A clip from the show was then shown of Olivia catching one of her clients in an affair with his brother’s wife, in relation to the question asked by Jones.
The main point of the clip was that even though Olivia was telling her client to end the affair, she was also telling herself to end the affair with President Fitz. 
“Do you think that physical attributes are more important to maintaining a successful relationship or do you think that a friendship maintains a relationship?” Asked Jailyn Jackson, a nursing major from Plaquemine.
The entire panel, including the audience, agreed that both aspects are involved in maintaining a successful relationship.
We all say that “looks aren’t everything,” but deep down we know that we want our significant other to look good as well as have a good personality.
The members of Alpha Kappa Alpha used their relationship forum to discuss affairs, loyalty, “being the other woman,” and self-worth among a portion of the student body.