Practicallyevery day I hear girls talking about how much they are in love with theirboyfriends and let the truth be told I hear guys saying the same thing abouttheir girlfriends. I just sit back and laugh, because it humors me to watch bothmales and females all over each other going back and forth “I love you…no Ilove you more…no I love you more.” All the while I am thinking these peopledon’t know the first thing about love.
Intoday’s society there is a great deal of perplexity when it comes to graspingthe difference between love and lust. We use the word “love” too lightly — nothaving the first idea of what it means.
So manypeople walk around thinking they are in love and granted, some may actually be,but most are in lustful infatuation. Numerous times I have heard people say”love is blind.” But before I left for college, my friend gave me this quote byan unknown source that states, “love is not blind…but it simply enables one tosee things others fail to see.” So I question “Is love blind or is lust really the blinding light thatprevents us from seeing the truth?”
TheOxford American Dictionary defines lust as “a strong desire for something.”This definition is factual, but incomplete. Lust in reference to humansdisplays a strong sexual craving and plays an essential part in our humanity.It is vital for one to be able to differentiate love from lust.
Dr.Duncan Moore of Santa Ana College in Santa Ana, Calif., says. “Love and lustare opposites. They are in direct conflict with each other. The question to beasked is whether our sexual relationships are an expression of love or lust…”Kashife Tisdale says, “Lust makes you think that you are in love because thesex be so good that you don’t wanna leave.” Alicia Benneditti says, “Mostpeople aren’t really in love, they are just in love with what they are able toreceive from that person. If the sex is good then I’ll say I love you…ratherthan being rude and saying I love the way you sex me.” Lust goes straight forthe exterior, satisfying a person physically for a few minutes, sexing theouter you. But when the lust is gone what do you have to satisfy you as awhole?
PastorRichard Edmond of the Greater God Church in Quartz Hill, Calif., says, ” Lustis seductive and powerful, but it is naturally selfish in contrast to love. Love between sexes requirescommitment, honor, respect, forgiveness, and sacrifice. This is very hard workand patience is a must.”
Lovesatisfies a person not only physically, but mentally and emotionally as well.It sexes both the inner and outer you. Love goes beyond skin, going within thedepths of the soul.
Lovegives its all, unlike lust, which takes and uses people; thus answering myquestion, “Is love blind or is lust really the blinding light that prevents usfrom seeing the truth?” Love opens one’s eyes to see things in a differentlight. It stops being all about the sex (physical exterior), and becomes aboutyour partner as a whole. This may be a challenge that most college studentsaren’t ready for. They would rather play the love game, saying that they are”in love” when they are blinded by a false illusion which is lust disguised inthe name of love.
