As spring approachesand warm weather fills the air, young men and women are meeting one anothereveryday, whether by chance, mutual friends, or Internet chat rooms and arefinding time to date and spend quality time with a special someone.
“From the initialmeeting to the first date, I have already formed an opinion of the girl,” saidRon Dorton, a senior architecture major from San Franscio. “This willdetermine where we will go and what will happen on the date.”
Even though datingcan be described as fun and exciting, there are issues that most college studentsand young adults must face and address.
“I don’t think youshould have any expectations on a first date,” said Oni Jackson, a freshmanaccounting major from Cape Cod. “What if it goes bad or too well? Firstimpressions are everything.”
According to relationshiptherapist Dr. Ronn Elmore, there are Seven Deadly Dating Sins that peoplecommit: intimacy too soon, forced family ties, no romance without finance, toomuch information, savior syndrome, shortcomings style, and one who must alwaysbe in the driver’s seat, are errors that individuals make when dating.
One major conceptconcerning college students in particular is the idea of how far is too far ona date. A hug, kiss, foreplay, sex, or simply doing nothing at all are optionsto choose from when a date comes to a close.
“I don’t like toreveal too much and I don’t expect too much from a female on a first date,”said Jeremy Signater, a freshman computer science major from Dallas.
To give a kiss on afirst date is very common, 29 percent of the students surveyed admitted tokissing someone on the first date.
“I wouldn’t suggestit, because you don’t know anything about the person and it can possibly leadto other things, most people who kiss on the first date are looking forsomething else to happen,” said LaToya Carter a freshman psychology major fromWoodville, Miss .
Most people thinkthat women are only protecting their feelings and are trying not to come acrosstoo strong, but men also don’t expect a kiss on the first date.
“I feel on the firstdate we don’t know each other well enough to kiss,” said Lionel Joseph, asenior microbiology major from Independence. “If a girl kisses me on the firstdate, it makes me think she is promiscuous and my thoughts about her change.”
Kissing can lead toother things and 15 percent admitted to having sex on the first date.
Leron Corley asenior engineer major from New Orleans said, “After having sex with someone onthe first date they probably will continue talking just for that purpose,because it was that easy, but they will have a very slim chance of having asuccessful relationship.”
