Is your baby mama or daddy my drama

With each passing day there are more and more baby mamas and baby daddies coming into society. This new wave of single parenthood introduces stereotypes about constant drama.
Songs such as That’s Just My Baby Daddy and Baby Mama Drama stresses the over-played stereotypes about single parenting.
“I have never had the opportunity to date someone with a child and I do not want to really,” says LaShonda Jones, a junior majoring in social work. “I do not want a ready-made family.” Some single people without children share these feelings. They often feel as though dating someone with children automatically places them in the lineup for becoming a step-parent.
When dating someone with children, people should understand what they want and what they are willing to sacrifice for the relationship, whether it is intimate, platonic or love.
“It is very challenging dating someone with a child, especially if you do not have one,” states Jameeka Martin, a senior majoring in marketing. “You will have to deal with knowing that you will always be second to the child. It is not necessarily about the relationship between the child’s mother, but with his child and it can be trying on the relationship, but love conquers all.”
The children are the most important factor when engaging in a relationship with a single parent. If the relationship is intimate, the single parent should not introduce their children to their partner nor should the partner want to meet the children. Like it or not, such changes cause confusion and children often mimic their parents.
With engaged in a platonic relationship, children really should not be formally introduced. Children have a natural tendency when not around the absent parent to cling to the person who is presently in their life.
Ranell Franklin, a senior majoring in urban forestry, feels that the situation involving dating a single mother depends on the number of children she has and if the baby daddy is involved in the children’s lives. This is the reason people need to define the relationship initially.
In a committed relationship, children should not be forced to accept the other person as their parent, because the future of the relationship is held in uncertainty. But both should understand the terms of the relationship in order to avoid hurting the child or children involved.