Fight Back or Take the Hit?

My mama always told my brothers that they better not ever hit a girl. She didn’t care who they were. They would ask, “What if they hit me first?” She insisted, “I don’t care who hit first, you better not ever hit a girl!” A man should never put his hands on a woman, but should a woman be allowed to put her hands on a man? In this day and age, there are so many cases with women being the abusers of a relationship. Is this through justifiable anger, or just irrational thinking? Or do they know they won’t be hit back? So, what is the guy supposed to do?
There are two things that can happen to the guy…he can hit back, which will result in everyone calling him a woman beater. They might even say he’s too scared to fight a real man. Or, he could not hit back and just become a woman’s punching bag. Most likely, nothing will happen to her, and he will continually be ridiculed by society. Case in point, when it was all over social media that Chris Brown hit Rihanna. He was called every name in the book, even when it was later revealed that Rihanna started, and escalated the fight.
Chris had no right to hit her, but she had no right to hit him either. Nowadays, some women like to start beating on a man, then when he hits them back, they play the victim. I’m not saying that the women who are abused are to blame, but when some women just say they’re being abused after starting a fight with their man, it gets hard to believe actual victims.
Last week, Bow Wow and his ex-girlfriend Kiyomi Leslie went to a party. Witnesses reported that Kiyomi was drunk and attacked Bow Wow. Instead of responding with violence, he walked away. They were both arrested, because the cops didn’t know who the aggressor of the fight was. Looking at the two mugshots, it’s obvious that there was a fight, but only one participant in it. Not only did Bow have to take the beating from Kiyomi, social media whipped his behind too. Bow Wow resisted the urge to fight Kiyomi back, and took the public shame. His mama should be proud.
Domestic violence is a severe situation that can result in someone becoming physically, and mentally scarred. It can even result in someone losing their life. If you or someone one you know is involved with domestic violence, don’t be afraid to speak up, or to go and get some help. There are many resources for anyone, whether it be a man, or a woman. You can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE, or 1-800-787-3224, for those who are deaf or hard of hearing. There is also the local Louisiana Coalition Against Domestic Violence. You can visit the website, www.lcadv.org, or call the hotline at 1-888-834-4357 for any additional information. Finally, for any Southern students, you can go to the Counseling Center, or call their office at 225-771-2480.
The next time you’re in a fight, think about what you’re going to do and the possible consequences. Bottom line, keep your hands to yourself!